Once again, the law prevails over common sense therefore not only setting back the true liberation of women by decades but handing a bunch of juvenile millionaire hockey icons an even stronger sense of entitlement. Damn it all!
Thank you for sharing some of your personal story and your insights into this never ending issue. I too mostly avoided the trial but the schemata I did get, I knew they were guilty. In true patriarchal tradition, EM,not the hockey hegemony was on trial. As usual.
With a rapist running Amerika and likely pedo and the priveleged white boys and male identified judges club running the show in Canada,when will we as girls and women truly have our day in court?
There would be some, unfortunately — those who accept their safety is solely their responsibility in order to protect men from ever being held accountable.
I wish. There are still those who carry the blame because we’re taught to do it, and we’re expected to do it, to protect a man’s future. I hate it but that decision may as well have had it in flashing neon lights; the law will not be used to hold men accountable. A civil suit might land differently, however.
Where do we get them skills? I want ‘em.. but I don’t wanna be “ Oafish “ about it.. I wanna be confident in expressing my dislike of asshole male-ness..
From everything I’ve ever heard, it’s role modeling. Talking about women respectfully. Talking about experiences where you did the right thing. Talking :)
Let that desire guide you: you don’t like asshole maleness, so push back on it with what you *do* like. Embrace that confidence when talking to male friends and embrace the kindness that you prefer to assholishness: if you see them saying something hurtful or that makes women uncomfortable, reply with a simple “I’m surprised that you’d say that”. Let them know it’s not okay but say it in a way that lets you know you see this as out of line with them. They’re a good person but they’ve said something out of character and you want to help them unpack it and grow.
If they understand that they’re your friend and you’re there to help them live their values—and you almost certainly share values if you’re friends—they’ll be more able to turn to you with the things they struggle with than any of the jabronis in the manosphere. Reject that toxic masculinity that you chafe at and embrace the masculinity that you value in a way that makes space for you and your friends to grow.
Thanks sharing your personal experience. There seems to be a culture - and in hockey - a long standing culture of hazing. It involves humiliating, degrading, abusive behaviour rather than team building, collaboration and leadership. What does this teach young men?? So, how can we establish laws that deal with this behaviour perpetrated on women? Clearly the stats show extreme failure in this regard. This trail is yet another infuriating story of patriarchy - regardless women judges and prosecuting attorneys.
Once again, the law prevails over common sense therefore not only setting back the true liberation of women by decades but handing a bunch of juvenile millionaire hockey icons an even stronger sense of entitlement. Damn it all!
Thank you for sharing some of your personal story and your insights into this never ending issue. I too mostly avoided the trial but the schemata I did get, I knew they were guilty. In true patriarchal tradition, EM,not the hockey hegemony was on trial. As usual.
With a rapist running Amerika and likely pedo and the priveleged white boys and male identified judges club running the show in Canada,when will we as girls and women truly have our day in court?
I cannot imagine a single woman agreeing with that verdict.
There would be some, unfortunately — those who accept their safety is solely their responsibility in order to protect men from ever being held accountable.
I should probably expand a bit on my statement.
Any person who’s ever been raped and has gained the courage to talk about it would never agree with this verdict.
The victim carries the blame and the shame and until that changes these outcomes don’t change.
Little boys are victims too.
I wish. There are still those who carry the blame because we’re taught to do it, and we’re expected to do it, to protect a man’s future. I hate it but that decision may as well have had it in flashing neon lights; the law will not be used to hold men accountable. A civil suit might land differently, however.
Too sad and too true. Empathy is truly lacking in our society today.
We aren’t capable, and we don’t have the requisite equipment, for the reckoning that is so sorely needed.
Even though, many males in my circle are complete assoholics ..I want better for me and them
Where do we get them skills? I want ‘em.. but I don’t wanna be “ Oafish “ about it.. I wanna be confident in expressing my dislike of asshole male-ness..
From everything I’ve ever heard, it’s role modeling. Talking about women respectfully. Talking about experiences where you did the right thing. Talking :)
Let that desire guide you: you don’t like asshole maleness, so push back on it with what you *do* like. Embrace that confidence when talking to male friends and embrace the kindness that you prefer to assholishness: if you see them saying something hurtful or that makes women uncomfortable, reply with a simple “I’m surprised that you’d say that”. Let them know it’s not okay but say it in a way that lets you know you see this as out of line with them. They’re a good person but they’ve said something out of character and you want to help them unpack it and grow.
If they understand that they’re your friend and you’re there to help them live their values—and you almost certainly share values if you’re friends—they’ll be more able to turn to you with the things they struggle with than any of the jabronis in the manosphere. Reject that toxic masculinity that you chafe at and embrace the masculinity that you value in a way that makes space for you and your friends to grow.
Thanks sharing your personal experience. There seems to be a culture - and in hockey - a long standing culture of hazing. It involves humiliating, degrading, abusive behaviour rather than team building, collaboration and leadership. What does this teach young men?? So, how can we establish laws that deal with this behaviour perpetrated on women? Clearly the stats show extreme failure in this regard. This trail is yet another infuriating story of patriarchy - regardless women judges and prosecuting attorneys.